My Journey Into BDSM

I think kink and BDSM has always been a part of me in some ways.  I think back to when I was eleven or twelve.  I remembered being teased and picked on by most of my classmates back then. To provide some escape from this torment, I would fantasize.  The fantasy involved the girls in my class being captive in an underground complex. Kind of my own secret harem.

The girls would be forced to serve me in anyway I chose. In my fantasy, the girls who were the most cruel to me in real life were very resistant to their new reality and would refuse to serve. I would fantasize different punishments for them.  Anything from being spanked and whip to being stripped of their clothes in front of everyone and being forced to go down on the girls who obeyed.  This fantasy went on throughout my early teen years and provided me with many an evening of entertainment.  I gradually learned more about BDSM and fetishes through the internet and became aware of a whole new community of like minded people.

When I met Slave, we started out fairly vanilla, but we gradually drifted into kink.  This was done almost by accident and with very little communication about it.  I don't remember exactly when  we started calling each other Master and Slave in the bedroom, but it was before we got married.  We continued with BDSM in the bedroom for quite a few years after still not really communicating our wants and needs to each other very effectively.  This led to a couple of restarts in our kink relationship.  We had a major restart about a year and a half ago where we stripped our kink relationship down to the bone and rebuilt.  Since then our relationship has started to evolve out of the bedroom, which has been a bit of challenge as we have young children, but has added a fun new dynamic into our relationship.  We communicate better with each other, although we still can improve in this area, and a started Slave on a training program to earn a collar other than her rope one.

We are very happy with where we are in our BDSM journey at the moment and we are looking forward for what is yet to come.